Youth Pastor Interview Questions: What To Ask Before You Hire

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Few hiring decisions shape a church’s future like choosing the right youth pastor.

Historically, it’s been common to poke fun at the stereotypical youth pastor as just being someone who’s cool and hangs with the kids. But in actuality, the person you bring in is a foundational building block for a church that wants to reach the next generation, stabilize its future, and strengthen its legacy.

One common mistake church tends to make when hiring a youth pastor is allowing the interview process to hinge on the youth pastor’s charming personality, their understanding of and connection to youth culture, or a generic sense of calling. All of those things make sense, and all of those things can be helpful indicators of a great youth pastor. But they aren’t actually the most important indicators of a great youth pastor.

That’s why today we’re going to talk about some more foundational attributes to look for when hiring your next youth pastor, and the specific youth pastor interview questions that help you find them.

Why Hiring A Youth Pastor Is A Big Deal

Before we jump in, though, it’s worth saying clearly that hiring the next youth pastor at your church matters because, in some ways, parents follow their kids. We all know that parents lead their families. But in a different sense, parents also follow the passions and interests of their kids.

When you have a strong youth ministry, you’re a lot more likely to have a strong overall church culture. Parents will stick around a church because their teenage child is growing spiritually there. Parents who don’t attend church may start attending church with their kid because their kid is interested in something that seems to be contributing positively to their development.

And, on the other hand, hiring the wrong youth pastor can end in fractured families or an entire generation of teenagers at your church who are spiritually stalled or spiritually hurt. That can take years for a church to recover from.

I know that sounds scary, but the goal of this post isn’t to scare you. The goal is to give you and your search team a thorough, category-based interview process that avoids some of the common mistake’s churches make when hiring a youth pastor. Instead of simply looking for charm or a fun personality, we want to mine for the kind of youth pastor who can contribute to the long-term success of your youth ministry program and the overall health of your church.

What To Nail Down Before The Youth Pastor Interview Process Begins

Before you start interviewing prospective pastors for your youth pastor role, you need to define what your church actually wants.

Define Your Core Purpose

What’s the core purpose of your youth group?

Are you looking for a youth ministry that primarily disciples the students you already have? Are you trying to reach students in the community? Are you hoping to partner with families to raise spiritually healthy kids? Or is there something else you’re trying to prioritize?

It’s normal for us to want to say yes to all of those things. We want to check every box. But it’s still important for your church to decide which of those things is most important because it’s highly unlikely that you’re going to find a youth pastor who is an A-plus in every single category. They’re human. They’re probably going to have areas where they are stronger and other areas where they aren’t as developed.

Clarify What Success Looks Like

You’re also going to want to clarify what success looks like in your context.

Are you bringing in a youth pastor to promote numerical growth in your youth ministry? Is success students developing better spiritual habits at home? Is success happy parents? Is success more students inviting friends? Is success deeper small group conversations?

These are important questions to ask and answer before you start bringing in candidates because your definition of success will inform the types of questions that you ask during the interview process. If you have not clarified what you’re looking for, then it becomes much easier to get distracted by a potential candidate who is impressive, but not actually the right fit for your church.

Assemble The Right Team

Finally, you need to assemble a wise interview team.

You probably don’t want only the top leadership of the church in the room. I mean, it’s important to have the senior pastor involved because they’re going to be working hand in hand with the youth pastor to develop the next generation in your church. But you may also want to include:

A current volunteer in the youth ministry, because they’re going to be heavily affected by whomever you bring in to lead the charge at a staff level.

A parent of a teenager. This parent doesn’t have to be the head parent, the loudest parent, or the person who already has the most influence. But having a parent in the interview process can be incredibly helpful because their perspective is going to be different from someone who works at the church or volunteers in the ministry without currently having a child in the youth group.

Those dynamics matter. If you have the right people in the room, you’re more likely to choose the right person for the job.

Core Areas Every Interview Process Must Probe

1. Personal Faith And Spiritual Vitality

It’s easy to assume that somebody interviewing for a position as a youth pastor has a healthy spiritual life, but that’s not always the case.

It’s important to ask questions that prompt the individual in the interview chair to speak candidly about their personal faith with Jesus. And not just their story of how they became a Christian. You want to hear what God has done in their life lately. You want to hear about areas of their heart that have been changed by the gospel. You want to know whether they’re actively walking with Jesus right now.

In some form or fashion, you may even need to ask about one or two areas of potential sin or struggle that, in your church context, could influence whether or not this person is the right fit right now in this season of their life.

Ultimately, you’re bringing in someone whom students are going to imitate just as much as they listen to. So it’s important to make sure that the person you’re bringing in actually has the kind of relationship with Jesus that you want the teenagers in your church to develop.

A few questions that get past the rehearsed testimony:

• Tell me about your current relationship with Jesus and what He’s been teaching you recently.
• What spiritual disciplines are a regular part of your life and which ones do you struggle to stay consistent with?
• When was the last time the gospel changed your mind or your heart about something? Walk me through it.
• Where do you turn spiritually when ministry gets dry or discouraging?

2. Theological Clarity And Teaching Ability

The person who comes in to be the youth pastor doesn’t necessarily have to have a four-year degree from the best seminary in the country. However, it’s important that the person coming in has a solid biblical foundation.

They are teaching. They are forming and shaping the way the teenagers in your church approach the Bible, God, doubt, and the gospel. So you want to make sure they have theological clarity around both core gospel issues and the hot-button issues that matter in your church context.

This isn’t about making sure they sound impressive. It’s about making sure they can handle the Bible faithfully and communicate truth clearly to young people.

So make sure they align with your church’s theological convictions. Ask questions that give them an opportunity to demonstrate their understanding of theology and their ability to teach the Bible in a way that is clear and accessible to students.

Here are questions that surface both their convictions and their ability to teach:

• How would you explain the gospel to a 13-year-old who has never set foot in a church?
• Walk us through how you’d prepare a lesson on a passage you personally find difficult or uncomfortable.
• A student asks you a hard question you don’t know the answer to, in front of the whole group. What do you do in that moment?
• Where do you land on [the hot-button issue most relevant to your church], and how would you teach it to students whose families disagree with each other?
• How do you decide what to teach across a whole year, rather than just week to week?
• Tell us about a time you had to walk back something you taught after realizing you’d gotten it wrong.

3. Philosophy Of Youth Ministry And Parent Partnership

A person coming in may not have a fully formed philosophy of youth ministry. If you ask them, “Tell me your fully formed philosophy of youth ministry,” their answer may be vague or scrambled, which is fair. That’s kind of a weird question.

But they probably have a way they believe the youth group is done. They probably have assumptions about what it looks like to build or develop a healthy youth ministry. Your job is to unearth what they believe and determine whether it’s a good fit for your church.

This is where knowing how your church defines success is so helpful.

If your church sees success as students developing spiritual habits at home, but the person you’re interviewing has a philosophy of youth ministry that is solely focused on teenagers sharing the gospel at school, that doesn’t mean their philosophy is wrong. It just may not be the best fit for your church in this season.

So ask questions around their philosophy of youth ministry.

But don’t stop there.

It’s also helpful to ask what they believe about parents and the role of parents in youth ministry. Ask how they understand their role in the lives of parents. If you’re bringing someone in simply to be a cool uncle or aunt figure to the kids, then that’s one thing. But if you’re looking for a youth pastor who will help influence the parents in your church by acting as a bridge between parent and child, then you’re looking for someone with a particular viewpoint on parents.

You’re looking for someone who sees parents as worthy of investment.

So ask questions that help you understand what they believe about parents and how they would like to partner with parents in youth ministry, if they want to do that at all.

Questions that draw out their philosophy without putting words in their mouth:

• In your own words, what does a healthy youth ministry actually produce? What are you aiming for?
• If our group grew by thirty new students this year but the students we already have drifted away, would you call that a win? Why or why not?
• What role do you believe parents should play in youth ministry, and what role should you play in the lives of those parents?
• How would you handle a parent who strongly disagrees with how you’re running things?
• In your mind, how should the youth ministry connect to the rest of the church, rather than running as its own separate world?
• Describe a youth ministry you genuinely admire, and tell us why.

4. Relational Wisdom And Cultural Engagement

The person you’re bringing in to be the youth pastor of your church is going to be building relationships with minors.

When we frame it up that way, alarm bells should immediately start ringing in our heads. And that’s a good thing, because this can be a tricky area depending on the person navigating the role.

You’re looking for someone who can become relationally close and trusted by students while still maintaining appropriate boundaries. You want someone who can navigate relationships and conversations with students wisely. You want someone who knows when to share pieces of their story and when not to.

So ask questions around what they feel is appropriate with students. Ask how they plan to navigate relationships with students of the opposite gender. Ask how they think about boundaries with students of the same gender. Ask how they handle texting, social media, one-on-one conversations, transportation, and emotionally intense conversations.

Relational wisdom matters because youth ministry is relational by nature. But relationships with teenagers require maturity, boundaries, and wisdom.

Questions that reveal how they actually think about boundaries:

• What boundaries do you set for yourself in one-on-one conversations with a student?
• How do you handle texting and social media with students? What are your personal rules, and where did they come from?
• How would you build trust with a student of the opposite gender while staying clearly above reproach?
• Tell us about a time you decided not to share something personal with a student. How did you make that call?
• How do you stay connected to youth culture without trying to be one of the teenagers?
• A student asks to ride alone with you in your car. What do you do?

5. Safety, Boundaries, And Ethics

Similarly, you want to make sure you’re bringing in someone who thinks like an adult. Not only in the area of appropriate relational boundaries with students, but also in the area of physical safety. You need someone who isn’t going to come in and do the stereotypical reckless youth pastor stuff.

Parents need to feel that when their kid goes to youth group, camp, a retreat, or an event, their kid is in safe hands.

So ask about safety. Ask about the types of events and structures they would want to create. Ask about their views on adult-to-student ratios at youth events, retreats, and camps. Ask what policies they have followed in the past. Ask what they would do if a student disclosed something serious. Ask what they believe should be reported and when.

These questions will give you a sense of how highly this potential candidate prioritizes safety, boundaries, and ethics.

Here are the questions that matter most in this category:

• What adult-to-student ratios do you consider non-negotiable for regular meetings, retreats, and overnight trips?
• Walk us through the safety policies you’ve followed at past ministries. Which ones would you want to bring here?
• If a student disclosed abuse to you, what would you do, and in what order?
• What do you believe has to be reported to authorities, and when is it not your call to keep something confidential?
• How do you plan and risk-assess an off-site event or a camp?
• What’s a “fun” youth ministry activity you would refuse to run on safety grounds?

Scenario-Based Wisdom For Youth Pastor Interview Questions

One of the best ways to get a sense of how a youth pastor will fit in your church is to give them mock scenarios to respond to. Now, I’ve been in youth ministry for almost 15 years. So I have some wild experiences in youth ministry I could draw from. But here are just three sample scenarios based on my youth ministry experience that could help you get a feel for the person in the hot seat:

Scenario #1: Transportation Troubles

You’re taking a group of students to an event three hours away from the church. You reach the halfway point when, suddenly, the vehicle(s) you’re using break down on the side of a busy highway. How would you handle the situation?

Scenario #2: Struggling Volunteer

One of your best volunteers, who has been working with the youth since well before your time, develops a gambling addiction. The habit isn’t affecting their relationship with the teens, but it’s greatly affecting their home life and the health of their relationship with God. How would you handle the situation?

Scenario #3: Teen Opens Up

One night during youth group, the group conversation gets deep and a little emotional. One of the teenagers blurts out in front of the whole group that they self-harm on a regular basis. How would you handle the situation?

There probably isn’t one right answer to any of these scenarios. In fact, if there were an initial right answer, it would probably be asking some kind of follow up question to better understand the context. But the way a person approaches these difficult (and very real, trust me) ministry scenarios will tell your search committee a lot about their leadership style and theological paradigm.

After The Interview: Next Steps For The Search Team

So the interview is done and you feel like you’ve found a good fit. That’s amazing! Before you dish out an offer, here are a couple of next steps to take:

• Check references thoroughly. Connect with the provided references, and ask each one to connect you with a non-listed reference from the same context. The key question to ask with both the official and non-official references is “Would you trust this person alone with your young people? Why or why not?”

• Have the interviewee shadow the youth group. Teenagers don’t ultimately get to make the hiring decision, but it can certainly tip the scales to see how the potential youth pastor meshes with your current group of students.

• Complete a thorough background check. Ensure you’ve done a proper background screening and communicated important church policies. This step is boring and procedural, but incredibly important, especially in a small church where everyone tends to trust quickly.

A Process That Loves Your People Well

A thorough interview process is grueling. It’s time consuming. It sometimes feels never-ending. And at some points, you may feel a little guilty for perhaps coming off judgy toward the candidates. But what helps in those moments is to remember that a thorough interview process is an act of love for the adolescents and families in your church and broader community. You are bringing someone in to shepherd them, so it’s worth thoroughly vetting that person to make sure they’re the right fit.

The right potential candidate may not be flashy. They might not be the most theologically knowledgeable. The person you choose probably won’t check every single box you have. But when you use the guidelines we’ve walked through today, you’ll ensure you get the best fit for your church from the available candidates God brings your way!

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